The best things in life don’t come easy.
Sometime in February 2016, UPSC declared that I had failed in the Civil Services Examination. That was my fourth attempt and third failure. The result didn’t seem as bad then, convinced as I was of my own supreme ability and UPSC’s blatant bias. My inner voice immediately went about searching for excuses. “I must have flunked the language paper. Or some clerical mistake? Surely I must have been wronged!”
I eagerly looked forward to my marksheet, mostly to confirm my own prejudice. When the marksheet finally arrived, the scores read as follows, starting with marks in Essay: 100,74,66,91,68,75,91. A grand total of 565, way behind the cutoff. If there were an individual cut off for each paper, I would have probably failed in all of them.
Thus at the end of four gruelling attempts and five years of toil, there I was. I get my worst result in the year I had worked the most. In that moment, the marks didn’t seem so bad— I knew I had failed that year anyway. What difference does a marksheet make?
But like a potent poison slowly making its way to my head, it was only in the hours and days later, I could truly grasp the scale of my defeat. I didn’t just miss the cut, I was nowhere near the competition. My failure was undeniable and total, and it shook me to the core.
Most of us begin our Civils preparation treating it only as an exam. But slowly and surely, as we face hurdles and endure suffering, the exam takes center stage and getting through it becomes our only objective. So when we are defeated in this exam, we almost feel defeated at life. And so it was with me.
The failure crept inward into other aspects of my being. It eroded my drive, confidence and morale. Both professionally and personally, I turned indifferent and underconfident. My day to day life became lethargic, timid and was one of mere existence— I was a walking dead man. And within no time, I unconsciously fell into the most crushing of traps: I was convinced that I am not good enough.
This is the sinking feeling every failed aspirant goes through. No one comes into the preparation thinking of giving this exam twice. That is why for many of us, the first failure comes across as shocking, the second humbling and the third absolutely devastating. I was indeed devastated.
At that point in 2016, for me to give another attempt was to risk another failure, and I couldn’t afford it. I wanted to save whatever little confidence that was left in me. I simply didn’t have the courage to carry on, and I knew I had hit a dead end. Within days, I decided to quit. I packed my papers, bundled my books, cleaned my shelves and dumped them in an obscure corner just so that I don’t even accidentally catch the sight of them— for they represented symbols of my inadequacy and collapse.
From that abyss, it took me a couple of months to recover. I realised that life was slowly drifting away, and I didn’t want to standby as a mere spectator. I focussed on work, learnt taxation laws, pursued my interests diligently and took up meditation as a hobby. In meditation, you train your mind to see things clearly. And I did begin to see things clearly.
I realised that I was so absorbed in this relentless exam cycle that I didn’t recognise my own hubris. For all my failures, I kept blaming UPSC, the examiner, my optional, my pen, the clerk entering the marks on the system— everything and everyone apart from me.
Blaming UPSC or someone else only gave me a false sense of satisfaction, made me feel good about myself, but did not in anyway help my cause. So instead of wallowing in self-pity and victimhood, I decided to own up to my failures and accepted that I failed because I didn’t deserve. Once I had accepted this, the inner voice that was so adamantly justifying my failings simply faded away.
The break helped me see that my failure was not that I couldn’t clear in previous attempts, but that I had learnt nothing from it. Year after year I kept repeating the same mistakes. I toiled hard, but hardly made any progress: I was running on a ground that was fast shifting beneath me.
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In December 2016, eight months after my debacle, I sat down to think hard and think deep to understand why I failed. It was not an exercise to avenge my defeat, I just wanted to know why.
Prelims couldn’t have been a problem— I always got a good score. Personality test was ruled out too: in the only interview I had given, I got 204. The conclusion was inevitable— I sucked at Mains. It stood like an impenetrable wall against which I had been hitting my head all these years. So I drilled deeper to diagnose my problem.
I downloaded toppers’ answer booklets and invested endless hours going through them. After a while, one thing became evident: Their answers weren’t in any way extraordinary (If you see my answers now, you’d realise the same). I zeroed in on the fact that it wasn’t because of lack of knowledge, and that my failings lay elsewhere.
My optional scores were a big problem too. I’ve always felt my optional Public Administration was treated unfairly. But this time I faulted no one, and I had to do something about it.
In Jan 2017, I decided to take up Anthropology. It was a bold decision: I hardly had 9 months to prepare an entirely new subject. On the other hand, I loved Anthro and it ignited my spirits and breathed intellectual fire into my otherwise dull preparation cycle.
Against that thick, impenetrable wall in front of me, now I had a small chisel. The challenge was daunting, but I kept reminding myself a quote from the film Shawshank Redemption: “Time and pressure. That’s all it really takes.”
I’ve always believed that Sports represent a microcosm of our lives and I’ve taken inspiration from many athletes. Roger Federer’s resurgence in 2017 couldn’t have come at a better time. I kept telling myself: After being written off by everyone, if he could come back and win it at 36, why can’t I?
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In July 2017, I enrolled at the ForumIAS academy for GS and Essay mains test series (online mode) and wrote my first test on 26-08-2017. I timed the clock, took the test from my home and wrote all answers at my usual writing speed. In a paper I took 3 hr 42 minutes to finish, I scored 87. The problem was clear as daylight.
I didn’t lose heart but worked to improve. The next test took me 3 hr 20 min; and finally by the end of 4th test, I could finish my papers within 3 hours.
The comments and assessment on my test series papers were incredibly helpful. I worked on their feedback to improve my answer content and presentation. Also, during this time I came across answer booklets of Prajit Nair (AIR-87, CSE 2016) and they were absolute gold. I adapted my writing style based on his answers. Points over paragraphs, simplicity over sophistication. Overtime, I’ve learnt to put dense, quality content in fewer words and tighter sentences.
All through this rigorous exercise, my aim was not to clear the exam with a top rank (it never really occurred to me), but to prove a point to myself that I am not a loser at this exam. The battle was intensely personal.
And so I practised and practised hard. On workdays I used to take out at least 3 hrs for preparation, and on weekends I slogged by the sweat of my brow.
Just before my Mains exam in Oct 2017, securing a top rank was never on mind. The immediate, burning goal in front of me was only this: in those 3 hours, for those 20 questions, I’ll answer and answer them well.
Which I did. When I walked out of that examination hall on Nov 3, 2017, I knew I gave my best shot.
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When the final results were declared on April 27, 2018, the immediate feeling I had was one of overwhelming disbelief. No one expects to top the exam, especially after failing so many times.
It’s only after sometime that the gravity of the accomplishment finally sinks in. And when it did finally sink in for me, I was slowly overtaken by a feeling that was much more precious. The emotion wasn’t one of ecstasy, but one of contentment. It was a feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction that I had won this personal battle.
After my results, when I went back to my hometown, I had people who came up to me, pulled me close, cupped my face in their hands and told me that they are so overwhelmed with joy as if their own son has topped this exam. The happiness I sensed seeing their faces is much much more than what I had felt on the day of my results. And in that moment I told myself this: all the effort, all the pain and all the suffering was well worth it.
Today, at the end of my UPSC journey, I stand with a firm newfound belief: when you own your failures, you become a better person. And when you work hard to overcome them, you win. And win big.
“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”
Sir, my journey of some past months would have been easy if i would have followed this ‘ here and now’ . Unable to catch where I was going wrong but got to know now . Thank youu for sharing these insightful lessons ..
Sir I wanted do my dream job IAS . But the thing I don’t have any idea of it I mean what all are the books to study , which is the best institute to join gor coaching can u please suggest me the book source and a best teaching institute sir . Please sir it’s my humble request
Such an inspiring story to witness. As an aspirant, where to start the journey to be answered.
Sir.. I am a student from remote village near Jagtial studying btech in CBIT HYD 2nd year from mechanical stream… Going through your journey was so inspiring.. Proud that you are from metpally.. I feel I can fly to my dreams with little guidance.. I want to give a start for UPSC preparation from now.. Tips from you so that I can improve during my degree.. That might be HELPFUL to me ..
Please go through other posts on the website.
Thank u very much sir..You are inspired me and your thought is very helpful to all the ..failure..
Again,thank you so much sir.?
Thank you so much
Sir, if you can then can you just suggest me since I left a job and have gone all in with the UPSC with almost no backup plan! I am bit worried about the outcome!
Congratulations on your achievement Sir.
I graduated this year and I am currently working in a private company. It would be quite difficult to leave the job and start preparations. I would like to know about your post graduation journey. Did you prepare while you were working or you started after you left the job. That would be really helpful for me.
sir, I was going through your blog last night.the whole night I just kept reading your blog,your answer sheet and all those priceless tips that you give through it. From last 1 year of my UPSC preparation always I felt that there was something missing in my preparation.. and last night I got the point from your blog from your answer writing style..your note making process, something that have given me a momentum to my preparation.Thank you sir,Thanks a lot.
Sir,did you not try Insights secure or Iasbaba for mains answer writing in your previous attempts?
No.
Sir I read your blogs often.
I want to know actually what you had done in your previous attempts.
So that I could know am I doing the same?
what I will say ….
1. A brother giving suggestion to his younger brother
2.A senior guiding to his juniors
3.An IAS officer sharing his experiences
I pick 1
Thank you sir for sharing your experience. It’s worth the read. 🙂
Can you share your meditation techniques and the ways through which you bought your mind at calm?
Thank you sir, for sharing your journey. It’s really really a inspiration for me.
Anudeep, I am not an IAS aspirant but resonate with your post at many levels. Since I first discovered this post, I keep coming back to it to get perspective on my own life’s struggles when the going gets tough. To dare to accomplish a seemingly insurmountable task and to have every failure devour you is a story that rings too close to the heart. Happy for you.
Sir is it worthy to put so much effort for upsc even when u are pretty sure that u will not get your preferred cadre and will have to work in small districts where surely quality of life for family will be low and more importantly for a person like you who could have easily got a good corporate job from bits pilani .
Really you are a real hero. Now I can gain strength to prepare for it.
Sir, currently i am in class 12th in a remote area of Odisha. Sir i need some suggestion like how to prepare for it as a beginner. And what are the most reliable sources? Which subjects are to be given top priority to clear UPSC?
Sir,reading your blog inspired me, not to loose the spirit of fighting odds in our life. I believe, I will work hard again to make my dream true to become Astronaut.
Sir, can you please suggest me the best coaching center in hyderabad ? as i am in search of it.
Sir, for your this beautiful story of UPSC jouney the title comes in my mind is “BEST TEACHER IS ALWAYS YOUR LAST MISTAKE”
No words…I literally cried.
Anudeep Sir,
Absolutely admire your outlook on things, clearing an exam is one thing, shaping yourself as a person and becoming a greater version of yourself is another.
Lately I feel clearing this exam is overhyped because the real journey starts and not ends there.
In UPSC world, journey is more enriching then the end itself.
Success is misunderstood and depends on perspective too- I am sure you will be successful in actual terms doing great work in the position you have earned for yourself!
Sir I am in third year in graduation I don’t know where to start preparation for CSE.
Lot of saw interview of toppers.
Fews are telling that start from 6-12 NCERT books and others start from NCERT class 12 with standards book of upsc
Please guide me sir.
“In meditation, you train your mind to see things clearly. And I did begin to see things clearly.”
Sir, this is exactly what I need at this point of my life. To see things clearly and create a harmony and energy flow into what I do. Can you please link the meditation guide that worked for you.
Thank you.
Inspirational experience for me..
I noted down few quotes from here.
Sir… your success story is really motivational.I am in class11 and I decided to work hard for u pcs.
Thank you sir
my upsc journey also started
You same time motivate for me and many people’s
I am also three time failure in UPSC prelim(actual 2 times because 1st time i couldnot complete my syllabus just i known about UPSC in december 2016 and then i prepared so not completed) but still i am giving now my best afforts for clear this exam , more clear all concepts,
Thank you so much for motivate and guide us as a good way.
Still now just i thinking that language is my problem because i m preparing in my homtown language gujarati and sources are available in hindi and english only, so for understand the topic it took time more, but now i am used to and not takes more time, i am preparing my notes in gujarati so for refer n revise its easy for me.
again thank you sir.
First of all congratulations sir for ur great success and salute to ur courage for giving next attempt till reaching your destiny and undergoing the whole process again and again. I am working in a bank and also civil service aspirant and regularly appearing in prelims. But in last two years I am qualifying CSAT but not Paper 1 . 50 percent òf the questions that I have attempted goes negative. Sometimes I think tht not even I have cleared Pt till now how would I complete my whole journey. But many times I make my mind to give another attempt. Sir please suggest . Is it necessary to join test series.?.
Hi Neha I’m also preparing UPSC CSE 2021 in Gujarati medium.But now I’m thinking about change my writing medium to English. I’m very confuse about it. Can u share your experience about preparation in Gujarati medium?
In my whole life…I always think there’s a limit of everything….there is limit of my patience also. Now after reading this I realized ,somewhere I am wrong….
Good morning Sir, myself Dharmendra Singh Bisht,2019 was my second attempt and first full prepared one.. i didn’t cleared the prelims this year though i feel i was too close to pass through cutoff.. if i didn’t have committed some silly mistakes during attempting questions. I was scoring around 100 this year but seems like cutoff went above 105.
I have Few Question in my mind running right now…
1.As i am preparing from home ( Self ) ,What should be my approach for next attempt ?
2. I don’t read newspaper ( hindu/express) as it is not avaliable here in my village..but read insights daily CA synopsis and 2 others monthly compilations like insight and one more diligently.. would this approach is good or should i read newspaper too ?
3. Many Toppers says revise 5-6 times.. how to do that sir? I read only 3 times in this attempt… plz do tell how to manage time in a day … and tackle revision ..that willbe very helpful for me..
4. You would Have a Lot Of experiences of up and downs in your journey towards 1st rank .. plz share some tips to tackle this situation of not clearing even the prelims ?
Thank you In Advance, Sir.